The more insidious of life's obstacles are your internal obstacles.
People, institutions, rules, regulations, and hierarchies all play major roles in our life. They get in our way, they make us stumble, we get frustrated, and we give up.
"One of this biggest things that can kill a persons hopes and dreams is being a perfectionist. It’s that little voice in your head saying that you are not good enough… that the product is not good enough to ship, that the book is not good enough to finish, that you are not good enough for the promotion, and many more."
"We stopped checking for monsters under the bed when we realized they were inside of us."
It's a waste of a good year not to review your highs, your successes — your home runs:
"You don't become a failure until you're satisfied with being one." A fortune cookie — I found this in a darn fortune cookie!
How serendipitous life is — when you least expect it — the universe opens a door to enlightenment.
So what does this mean?
Are you going to make mistakes? Sure.
Are you going to fail? Sure.
But we need to understand is HOW we react to that failure. If we let it defeat us — Failure has won.
If we step back and learn from our failure — we move on. We stay strong. We get that much closer to success.
So today — don't focus on your failures, your losses, your dropped balls, your missed chances.
Today I want you to see what CAN happen. What you can do right NOW.
You'll thank me.
Wonder why you don't get certain things accomplished? Why you hit the same obstacles every time?
Work breeds frustration. It's a fact. You get frustrated when people or things knock you off balance, where you're out of control. It could be a late project, or a recalcitrant associate, or a vendor who never gets back to you.
During my coaching sessions, I run into a lot of "Fear of Failure" discussions. People who are paralyzed because they feel if they take action (any action), they will fail and the world will come crashing down upon them.
If you know me, I'm constantly out in the electronic zeitgeist learning new things and meeting new people. This morning, I came upon Human Planet, an incredible BBC documentary on a man called Tete (who makes Chuck Norris look like a schoolgirl). He climbs a very tall tree (120-150 feet in the air) with just a vine and his willpower.
Why? To break into a bee hive to get honey for his family. By the way, he probably gets stung scores of times during the process.
"The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." - Nelson Mandela
Well — Do You? My family and I just watched the film, 'The Polar Express' last night with Tom Hanks. It’s a wonderful movie — great story, wonderful animation, and the acting is top notch.
One of the themes is the main character’s ability to ‘Believe’ in the existence of Santa Claus. It’s all focuses on hearing one of the sleighbells from Santa’s sleigh . . . oh . . . I’m getting off course here.
At some time in our careers, we self-sabotage. We know we need to do 'A' to move forward, but somehow we find ourselves doing 'B'. And 'B' isn't as good as 'A'. In fact, 'B' might make us take a number of steps backwards. But we do it anyway. Why? Fear of Failure and/or Fear of Success.
It's hard to be a leader in today's economy. Add that you need equal parts of courage, vision, empathy, and reality (Peter Koestenbaum's Leadership Diamond) AND get your work done, it's almost impossible. I've reduced my list of hundreds down to five reasons.