Set Your 2012 Goals In Two Steps.

It's December. Many people are scrambling to get their end of the year targets complete. Many are trying to reach out to prospects and recalcitrant clients to make that sale. Some are lining up their teams for that final push. A select few are slowly winding down their work for the eventual hibernation during the last two weeks of the month. They all should be taking just a little bit of December to begin laying the foundation for January. And February. And March. And the rest of 2012.

Some people have no time to do it. Some dread doing it. Some are downright afraid to do it. But you and I know it has to get done.

So today, let's get it done together - I will help you do it. Nothing fancy — actually a simple process that I take all of my clients through. So here goes:

STEP ONE - Plan The Big Picture.

Take a sheet of paper (or use my template) and list three (3) things you would like to accomplish in 2012. They can be personal (better time management) or linked to your position (increase my sales by 12%). To the right, list when you'd like to get each one done (I hate the term deadline).

Don't make them too big (increase sales by 112%) or too broad (change the world). Why? The odds are stacked against you that you'll never accomplish them. Keep them small, attainable, and reasonable. If you hit them early, you can always move the target up a bit.

STEP TWO - Break It Into Quarters.

Take a sheet of paper (or use my template) and draw a horizontal and vertical line to produce four equal quadrants. In each quadrant, I want you to place a number 1, 2, & 3 (they correspond to each of Step One's accomplishments).

For each number in each quadrant, I want you to write down two things:

1. What are you going to do?
2. When will you get it done?

That's it. This is your map for 2012. It might change, but you'll feel a whole lot better if you have guideposts, activities, and accomplishments to help you along the way. You can even make it more granular by planning out each month (and each week within the month). If you feel so inclined — go for it!

Finally, this might look too simple or too basic. I agree. But I would rather have someone tackle these simple steps than do nothing.

Four Powerful Questions To Ask Yourself This Season.

Most people use New Year's Eve (and Day) to plan forward for what might be in store for 2012. And that's a good thing. During the holidays, I try to look back at what happened over the past 12 months and ask myself a few simple questions:

1. What went right?
2. What went wrong?
3. Who did I help?
4. Who helped me?

Why? It's a great way to assess your growth, your track record, and to clearly see who is important in your life. I try to develop a list of bullet points under each question to ensure I am concise and targeted for each question. Let me break each one down:

What went right?

I always like to start with a positive — it gets me going and I dive right into any exercise. What did you do right this year? What decisions really paid off? What directions did you take which delivered increased revenue, energy, or positive challenges? What client not only loved you, but came aboard with gusto?

Next Steps: Keep doing this.

What went wrong?

What didn't turn out as we expected? Where did one of our decisions go off the tracks? Who did we expect to help us and they dropped the ball? What client didn't come through? What has been going along swimmingly and then all of a sudden stopped, disappeared, or caused a major upset?

Next Steps: Stop, reassess, and change direction.

Who did I help?

This is by far the most important question for me (and probably for you too). With my guidance and abilities, who did I reach out to and give them guidance, assistance, or direction? How did I use my talents to help them do their job? How did I help them make more money? Build a stronger client base?

Most importantly, how did I help them when they were down?

Next Steps: Who else can you help in 2012? How can you help more people?

Who helped me?

This is the one we always forget. This time of year is for reflection on those special people who went out of their way to help us grow our business, strengthen our career, and make us a better human being.

Next Steps: Send each of these people a personal letter or card telling them how much they changed your life. Do it today.

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Top Five Regrets Of Managers.

This post is for all those frustrated managers out there — I was in corporate for 20+ years and managed many large teams of dedicated people. It's one of the hardest positions to have — there's a lot of uncertainty when it comes to high-level decisions.

1. I should have worked harder to keep my best person.

The simple truth is — if they're your best, they're going to flee at some point. And there's nothing you can do about it.

When people get 'the itch' — moving upwards or onward — there are very few things you can do to hold them back. Why? Because the single action of 'holding them back' delivers the exact opposite reaction within that person. They want to grow, meet new people, experience new challenges, and make more money.

I always say — if one of your people have made the decision to leave — help them and don't get in the way. You will make a friend forever — and maybe someday — you can hire them back when you start at another company.

2. I should have spent more time growing and motivating my people.

Yes, you should have. One of the most important duties of every manager is to motivate, grow, and push their team. If you're not doing that on a regular basis, you're not managing. It's that simple.

Take time at least once a week to better understand the motivators with each direct report you manage. Do they need more attention? Less attention? More direction? Accolades? Acknowledgment? Money? Understand the motivators and you will key into what drives them to do better work and deliver 150%.

3. I should be more effective managing upwards.

You are absolutely correct. But don't focus 100% of your efforts towards this. You'll then turn into a suck-up — and no one likes a suck-up.

Find out the motivators and deliverables of your manager and help them in any way you can to deliver on their projects. It not only gives you the opportunity to learn new techniques and challenges, it allows you (and your team) to hone in on what's really critical for the company.

Also, LISTEN. Don't always go to your boss with problems. Be a sounding board and a trusted resource. Listen to what they say - don't try to solve the problem at first, just be Larry King and keep asking questions. Get them to open up. They will LOVE you for it.

4. Why do I keep hiring the wrong people?

Put on your seat belt — this is going to be a bumpy ride. 

1. Be VERY clear about the job description. Know exactly what you want in a person and what you want them to do. Most manager screw this up or are very lackadaisical about it.
2. Make time for the interview. Don't rush it. Ask key questions which will elicit answers to allow you to better understand each applicant and their experience.
3. Most of all - look for enthusiasm and fit. You want someone who has an internal power source which is ready to rock every day. In addition, you want to look for nice people, not jerks. This is a gut call sometimes, but with the right questions, you will better understand each applicant.
4. Hone in on 2-3 finalists and then have your people check them out. Also, tell them as much about the company, the position, and the environment as possible. You are looking for a good fit.

5. I need to better document performance issues.

Yes, you should. And it's not that difficult. You should do two things:

Have two files for each direct report — one for all the good things they do and one for all the performance issues. Document, document, document.

• Sunshine file - all the good things. Keep the emails, the testimonials, the comments from clients, etc. Comes in handy at review time or when they're having a bad day.
• Performance file - Add quick notes with the date, time, people involved, and the issue. Keep to the facts and don't add any emotion or perspective. If it starts to become an issue - get your HR rep involved immediately. Better safe than sorry.

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This Motivational Quote Greets Me Every Day.

"Work your butt off so one day . . . your signature becomes an autograph."

From one of my favorite sites - http://www.reddit.com/r/GetMotivated/

Check it out.

Top Five Regrets of Struggling Businesses.

This post is for all business owners — In my 10+ years of coaching around the world, I've seen it happen to many successful businesses. Most people get it, but there are a few who take their eye off the prize and let their house of cards tumble to the ground. Here are some of their regrets:

1. I should have see the change in the marketplace.

This has been a HUGE regret over the past few years. Of course we all know about the economy — but there are so many business owners who think life will just go on if they stick their head in the sand and fervently hope for the best.

First, understand what market pressures are hitting your industry — are prices going up? Hard to get materials? What's changing?

Second, develop 'What-If' scenarios for these changes — if my A clients go away, I need to tap into B clients with this strategy. Also, don't get caught up in developing strategy without taking action — if you see the marketplace changing, take action TODAY.

2. I should have seen my clientele changing.

This is the one that sneaks up on you and suddenly bites you in the butt. Maybe you lose one of your better and oldest customers, then a new one defects. Suddenly, it's a downpour of defections and you don't know what to do.

First, keep your eyes and ears open. See what's happening to your direct (and indirect) competition in the industry — are they getting hit or going out of business first?

Second, retention is a HUGE part of your client relationship. Ensure you have a healthy communication channel with your customers (see #3) and you are personally speaking with them on a regular basis. What do they like? What don't they like (people hate to ask this question)? What could you improve? If you ask these questions now, you won't lose your key customers later.

3. I should have paid more attention to marketing and promoting my business.

Face it — we get comfortable in the house we build. Clients flock to our business, we make gobs of money, and we think we have a winning formula. But life (and your marketplace) changes in a millisecond. Every sustained and successful business KNOWS the secret to success is consistent and focused marketing to communicate to your new (and current) audience.

First, assess what you're doing right now. What's working? What isn't? Ask your prospects and customers how they've heard about you. Track your marketing dollars and develop a monthly ROI trend with all the things you do to market your business.

Second, don't be afraid of abandoning a tried and true method of advertising. I've had so many clients enraptured with radio (and spending thousands of dollars a month on it) and when they did a quick calculation of its current ROI, they found it came in dead last for delivery of qualified prospects. Sometimes you need to put certain marketing avenues on the shelf for a little while and try out new directions — see what happens.

4. I should have kept my eye on the 20% who deliver 80% of my business.

In business, it seems the 80% of bothersome and small-value clients make up the monster-share of our business troubles. They're the ones who are nit-picky about everything, argue about every single penny, and are never satisfied about the final product.

First, understand who are your 20% and who are your 80%. Begin to make a persona for the 20% and go out and find more of them. Actively spend more money, marketing dollars and time to find these people.

Second, clearly define who the 80% is. And start firing them — begin from the bottom and move upwards. You don't make a lot of money from them — why spend so much time trying to make them happy? A great book to read on firing your bad customers is Book Yourself Solid by Michael Port. Great way for you to put the velvet rope in place to access your services.

5. I worked so hard and put in long hours, but it didn't matter.

Welcome to the real world Neo.Every one of my clients need to be shown the red or blue pill — and take the right one to understand you need to work smarter, not harder (or longer). Everyone thinks they need to kill themselves to 'be a success'. Understand, I know there are times when there is an emergency or the delivery of a major project — you will then need to put in the requisite time and energy. But it shouldn't be permanent — only temporary.

First, take a long hard look at how you REALLY spend your time and what REALLY benefits your bottom line. We tend to do the things we like and sometimes, these things really don't contribute much to the bottom line. I had a client, a manager of a major store, spending his time replacing florescent fixtures in the ceiling while he maintained he had no time for marketing his business permanently. I instructed him to delegate the light fixture duty and get his butt out on the street to build his clientele.

Second, be smarter about HOW you work and WHEN you work. Many people ask me how I get everything done AND have a full-book of clients (with a waiting list) all the time. I tell them I get up every day at 5 AM and get 1-2 hours of work in prior to my first coaching session. In addition, I also get up on the weekends at 6 AM and work until 8 AM (when my family gets up). If you do the quick addition, I get in an extra 14 hours of work on my business every week without impacting my regular coaching session hours. Try it!

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150 To 5,384 Visitors In One Week — OMG!

What a week! As you can see from above, a single post really hit a chord with my readers and invited in a whole slew of new visitors.

Maybe it was the title: "Top Five Regrets of the Dying". Something resonated with an exponential increase in friends who are interested in this topic.

When I usually check my analytics, I get a wide variety of readers from all over the U.S. and the world every day. Based on the comments I received on my site, LinkedIn, Facebook, and Google+, many people appreciated the recommendation and each of the 'regrets'.

As a coach, I'm constantly looking for engagement with my clients and readers.

What did you really like about the article?

What do you want me talking about?

What topics would you like to see?

Thanks ahead of time for your comments and insight!

P.S. I've continued my series with "Top Five Regrets of the Unemployed" and on Monday you'll see "Top Five Regrets of Struggling Businesses". Enjoy!

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Top Five Regrets of the Unemployed.

This post is not only for the unemployed — it's for those great people who still have jobs and businesses. I run into the same five regrets every day with out-of-work people I meet and the workshops I host. If you find yourself speaking these words, take my advice:

1. I should have seen this coming.

You can't have eyes in the back of your head all the time. I always suggest to my clients to have better peripherals around the office — keep your eyes open to the bigger forces whipping around the organization. Subtle layoffs? Projects cut? Boss leaving for a better job elsewhere? 

Don't focus on the past — sometimes things come out of nowhere and hit you square in the face. Deal with it and move on.

2. I should have worked harder.

Yes, you should have. But most of the time, your layoff wasn't due to your light workload. It may have many reasons — too old, too young, big salary, small salary, major project cut, minor project shelved — it can be ANYTHING.

The secret HR/Financial math is never revealed to you — stop focusing on the past and ensure any position you get will be met with unbridled enthusiasm and energy.

3. I shouldn't have ticked off that person.

Business is full of positive and negative communication. Sometimes you acknowledge and compliment people — sometimes you piss people off. It comes with the territory. Stop worrying about what you said to what wrong person. Odds are, they probably deserved it.

And in the light of day, it probably didn't make a bit of difference about your layoff.

4. I should have gotten my resume together.

Yes, you should have. This is my one pet peeve of every executive — they always wait until they're on the street to begin updating their resume. It's too late.

Today — get your resume, update it and send it to a qualified resume writer (contact me if you need a good one). Then get it on the street — not to a lot of people, just key people who might have a bigger, better, and more fun opportunity for you.

5. I should have networked with more people outside of work.

Yes, you should have. Don't cocoon at work — get out on a regular basis (at least once a week) to meet with fellow colleagues, peers in the industry, or friends to expand your knowledge of the marketplace.

Don't sit at your desk every day — that leads to a quick professional death every time.

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Are You Working Too Much? Here’s How Click It Down!

CLIENT CALL:"Rich — just started working here a few weeks ago. I'm starting to get emails from my boss and peers with timestamps of 2:00 and 3:00 AM. Getting nervous here — I am NOT going to work 60-70 hour weeks — what should I do?"

SOLUTION:

First off — don't worry. There are certain situations where people work crazy hours:

• Startups - everything is on the line to deliver and the benefit is all yours if you SUCCEED.
• Emergencies - something is broken and you need to fix it IMMEDIATELY.
• End Of Projects - everything is coming down to the wire and you must DELIVER.
• Reduced Staff - you've lost a valuable resource and someone has to do the work or the engine STOPS.
• S*** Happens - too much work, too many interruptions, too many meetings, you just have to get past this and get back on track.

THE FUNNY THING:

All of these situations are temporary (for the most part). Unfortunately, a lot of people get locked into a 'busy-busy-busy' mindset and they turn 'temporary' into a permanent situation.

AND THAT'S WHEN THE TROUBLE BEGINS.

It begins to affect:

• Your health.
• Your family.
• The quality of your work.
• YOUR SANITY.

HERE'S WHAT YOU DO:

1. Just Starting A Job or Project — You need to work some heavy hours to not only learn the lay of the land, but to set expectations for your boss, peers, and team. Say at least 50-60 hours a week for about 90 days. Then you can cull back your hours to a reasonable 40-50.

2. New Boss Or Client — Kick up your hours and visibility and watch what your boss does. Are they an early-bird? Do they stay late? You need to establish the perception of a 'hard-worker' to them and then once built in, you can then cull back your hours slowly.

The whole idea is to work smarter, not harder/longer. But you do have to deliver a perception of working hard so most people don't feel you are short-changing them. It's a weird generational thing — but you have to do it.

Hold the line — if you get questions about your schedule ask them:

"Has the quality of my work suffered?" "Were you not able to reach me in an emergency?" "Am I not always available when needed?"

Their response will always reconfirm your decision to work normal hours. Trust me. If you are in a situation or location where crazy hours are the norm, you might want to reassess what is REALLY important to you — the money or your life.

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3 Ideas To Bring A Bit More Sanity To Your Life.

I was sitting in church this Sunday and we had a simple prayer. One part really stood out for me: "We imagine a world where peace and justice are the ordinary realities of life. We dream of a planet where giving and sharing are second nature to all people. We envision an earth where joy and celebration fill the news and our lives."

Just take a second today — what if you opened your newspaper or clicked on a news link and saw this:

• "No Fighting Recorded Anywhere On The Globe — A World Record"
• "Soup Kitchens Overflowing With Food; All Charities Exceed Their Goals"
• "Elected Officials, Tea Party, Occupy Wall Street, and Police All Sit Down To Solve Problems"

Okay, maybe I had a little too much 'spiced' eggnog over the weekend. But what would it be like if you read something like this?

Is it crazy? Can it never happen? We are the same civilization who sent a man to the moon, eradicated smallpox and polio, and went from TNT to nuclear bombs in 6 short years.*

Let's dial it down a little bit — what can you do in YOUR world, with all the PEOPLE you touch, in a SHORT amount of time?

• How can you add just a little more peace and justice?
• Where can you give and share just a little bit more?
• What can you do to build a little bit more joy and celebration to your world?

During this season, let's see if we could do some of these things — what would happen if everyone added their little bit to the mix? Everyone took time out to add peace, giving, and joy to the world?

What would our world be like?

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*P.S. I'm not wild about bombs — it's the speed, focus, and delivery of an IDEA. The Manhattan Project began modestly in 1939, but grew to employ more than 130,000 people and cost nearly US$2 billion (roughly equivalent to $24.4 billion as of 2011).

What would happen if we took $50 billion back in 2001 and eliminated petroleum from all transportation? What would our world be like today?

P.P.S. I hope I'm not proselytizing too much here — let's focus more on the philosophy — not where it came from.

One Way To Make IT Happen.

"When you know WHAT you want and you want it BAD enough, you find a way TO GET IT."

A great quote from Jim Rohn. 

4 Ways To Be More Positive In Your Life.

Here's a little bet — Pick any successful person you know. Think about their personality and demeanor. You'll probably find they are frequently positive in their outlook on life and work.

You might come to the conclusion: Because they are successful, they are naturally positive.

Actually, it's the exact opposite. Thinking and communicating positively actually delivers success.

Successful people regularly create positive and optimistic scenarios in their lives. It allows them to take those small, successful moments and turn them into opportunities to reach their goals.

How can you do it? It's easy:

1. Use big positive and cheerful words to express yourself. When someone asks you about your business, say it's 'UNBELIEVABLE!'
2. Use bright and cheerful words to describe other people. Say "I know John — he's a great guy who always delivers."
3. Use positive language to encourage others. "I know you can do it because you've hit it out of the park every other time!"
4. Use positive words and images about the things you do. "We had such an incredible time delivering that product. Even though it was close to the deadline, the entire team pulled together to make it happen!"

If you 'litter' your life with positive comments and thoughts, it opens up a world of opportunity to focus clearly on how you think about things. And it affect how you do them.

Do you disagree? Then do this for the next week:

• Use small and condescending words to express yourself.
• Use unflattering and hateful words to describe other people.
• Use hostile language to discourage others.
• Use negative words and images about the things you do.

Okay — I went a bit overboard. Just do this then:

• Try not to use any flattering words to express yourself. Be humble.
• Describe other people with uninspiring comments.
• Encourage others by asking them to do things because they have to.
• Never comment or mention the things you do.

See how far you get. 

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The One Secret To Look More Confident.

There are hundreds of books out there. Thousands of speakers. And they all talk about confidence. But it's really easy. Here's the secret (don't tell anyone):

Walk 25% Faster and Smile.

That's it. Now you might be saying, "Rich — that stupid. I need to work on my confidence daily."

Here's the skinny:

If you walk 25% faster (just pick it up a little bit):

• You exude confidence.
• You look like a successful person.
• You embody: "I've got someplace important to go and do."
• If you don't believe me, watch this (start at 2:00 minutes in)

If you Smile:

• It gives you confidence.
• It deflects fear.
• Boosts your spirits.
• Check this out (TED speakers are some of my favorites).

Appearance says a lot about who you are and what you do. It allows you to look like the kind of person you want to be.

Look sharp — think sharp.

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Do You Believe In Your Product?

Why arent you selling more? Why arent you happy at your job?

Why arent you fulfilled? Challenged? Focused?

Why arent you moving up? Making more money?

You probably don't fully believe in your product. You say you do — but deep down — you really don't. Either you don't believe it works, or is too expensive, or you've seen a lot of dissatisfied customers.

This happens often — you might start out strong — but after awhile, you begin to doubt the efficacy of your product or service. Well, you have two choices:

1. Start believing in your product again.
2. Get another job.

It's that easy. You can't go on faking your interest in your product. It will start to show — first your peers will see it, then your boss, then, ultimately, your customers.

Unless you want to find a new job or vocation, begin the process to produce a new interest in your product — one where you fervently believe in it.

This happens all the time to coaches. Since coaching is somewhat subjective, there are times when I question its' efficacy. Usually after one or two unmotivated clients.

I then need to step back and clearly question — is it coaching? Is it me? Or is it the unmotivated client? I need to clear out all of my doubt — I then can get back to business.

Do you have a crisis of confidence sometimes?

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Be Obnoxious & Visceral To Get Noticed.

That's right . . . obnoxious & visceral. What do I mean? I don't want you to be disgustingly objectionable or dealing with crude or elemental emotions.

I want you to stand out and be noticed. And frankly, politeness is not invited to the party. Politeness will only get you so far — but if you want to stand out, you must wedge your foot in the door and throw your shoulder to barge in.

Most executives and business owners don't want to do that. We've been taught to play fair, act with integrity, and treat everyone nicely. And that works to a certain extent — until you hit a wall and can't get through.

Maybe it's a problematic client. Or a close-minded boss. Or a peer who just won't listen. Or a vendor who keeps doing the same thing even though you remind them to do it differently.

Sometimes to cut to the chase and make a strong impression, you need to be obnoxious and visceral. What do I really mean?

Communication issues? You need to cut to the chase and explain exactly what is bothering you. Don't dance around the bush — tell them exactly what the issue is and then ask how they will solve it. Don't worry about their 'feelings', if they've been treating you badly, or bad-mouthing you — get real with them. Don't argue — get right to the point and in their face.

Hard to get an audience with a client or higher up? To get things done, you might have to be a bit more aggressive, more pushy, more 'in your face' than usual. First, get your act together and plan exactly what you're going to say — then get in there and say it. Forget about being polite — you need to be heard  — pick the right time and location and just DO IT.

The funny thing is — most people will not take it as an insult. In fact, they will probably see a little bit of them in you and really appreciate it.

On the other hand, if it doesn't go well — usually all is not lost. People will understand you are serious and hopefully make time for you at a later date. Almost no one will completely disown you for being brash.

Where do you need to be obnoxious and visceral today?

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How To Deal With Frustration.

We all get frustrated. It's a natural feeling that appears when we lose control of something in our lives. It could be a project at work, a critical client, a windfall that suddenly disappears . . . anything. I've been frustrated all week. Due to a freak snowstorm in October, a large part of Connecticut is out of power. Trees fell from the weight of the snow on their leaves and downed power lines all over the state.

I live in Oxford, which is 99% down. No power. And it gets cold at night. And from what I'm hearing from the local utility, it's going to be like that for a week. So I'm frustrated. VERY frustrated.

It affects me . . . my family . . . my business. Even though I have a great wood stove and a generator, it's still hard to live normally at my home. No internet, no entertainment, keeping things cold, trying to cook, you get the idea. It sucks.

But frustration is a two-way street.

Go deeper into frustration and you get ANGRY. And that's not good. And it doesn't solve anything.

Understand and deal with the frustration and you are IN CONTROL. This is where you begin to solve your problems.

You might need to plan more efficiently. You might have to give up some creature comforts. You might have to set up alternative strategies. But let the frustration move you into CONTROL, not ANGER.

Take those steps that you need to take to get back into control. Buy that generator. Stock that wood stove. Keep your gasoline stockpile full. Do anything you need to do to make sure you move that needle into the control section of your life.

How can you apply this to your situation on the job? What can you do RIGHT NOW to get back into control?

My Favorite Motivational Quote.

"The best revenge is massive success."- Frank Sinatra

How To Close Your Year With A Bang (and have fun too).

Here's how to make the last two months of 2011 accelerate to the finish line. But the last two months of the year are littered with holidays, the beginning of bad weather and procrastination. You can still pull out some key working strategies to make both months powerful winners for 2011.

You need to break your time down and devise a plan for each week, each day. Copy and Paste into Word/Pages and then Print this out to list what you can get done each day. So here goes:

NOVEMBER:

Week1: 1st-4th: You're down one day this week: Halloween. Planning week for the next two weeks. Strategize what needs to happen, who you need to see and what results you expect for Weeks 2 & 3.

Week2: 7th-11th - Friday: Full week - Take Action - Hustle. Hit the ground running - make things happen.

Week3: 14th-18th: Full week - Take Action - Hustle. This is the key week - keep the momentum going.

Week4: 21st-25th: Thanksgiving week. Most people are powering down - reach out to key clients and managers to thank them for making your 2011 a powerful one. Use cards (handwritten) or phone calls.

Week5: 28th-30th: Three days. Come back from your Thanksgiving time with a bang. Review what you accomplished in November and begin planning for December.

DECEMBER:

Week1: 1st-2nd: Two days. Still planning - ensure you have a solid action plan for the next two weeks.

Week2: 5th-9th: Full week - Take Action - Hustle.

Week3: 12th-16th: Full week - Take Action - Hustle. People usually start powering down - get a feel for what is happening and keep the momentum going.

Week4: 19th-23rd: This week is shot: Christmas. Take it easy - enjoy this time with your colleagues, team and family. Build deeper and stronger relationships. Take your best client out for an expensive lunch.

Week5: 26th-30th: This is your key planning week: No one is there. Work. Time to look at 2012. Make broad stroke planning goals and activities. If your boss is in, have a meeting and discuss what has to happen next. If you own your business, this is the week to lay the groundwork for a powerful 'start out of the gate' for 2012.

I've run every NOV/DEC like this for the past 10 years and guess what? I surpass my numbers every time. Plan - Hustle - Enjoy — it's the only way to sanely get through the holidays.

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P.S. How do you like this schedule? Is it practical? Let's talk. I've worked with a number of clients — and we developed a successful plan to grow tackle the last two months. If you’re not a client . . . pick up the phone and call me — I offer only one complimentary session each week.

One Guaranteed Secret To Reach Your Goal.

Are you ready? Here it is: If you are absolutely, relentlessly focused — no, obsessed — on one singular goal, you will achieve it.

That's it.

I would love to insert a special quote from Anthony Robbins, Eleanor Roosevelt, or Chuck Norris to reinforce my point — but the simple fact remains NO amount of quote-compiling, mantra-repeating, excuse-making, or navel-gazing will get you there.

I'm not going to waste your time trying to convince you otherwise if dozens of graphics, quotes and stories have failed to do the job.

You either do it, or you don't.

No magic, just dedication.

"That's how Dad did it, that's how America does it . . . and it's worked out pretty well so far." - Tony Stark

Motivation For The Weekend.

You probably haven't heard of Omar Hamoui but his story is definitely inspiring. In 2009 sold his company, AdMob, to Google for $750 Million.

Here is some of his advice:

Don’t be afraid.

Don’t be afraid to fail, don’t be afraid to get fired. Don’t be afraid to make a mistake or change your mind. If you find that you are doing or not doing something simply due to a fear of what might happen, chances are you need to rethink the problem. Fear is an awful guide and people tend to be awful judges of the true “downside”.

One of the most amusing things in the world is watching MBA students at the best business schools in the world fret over their career opportunities as if they will be living out of a cardboard box if they don’t get the right internship.

The best advice I have is that whatever you do, it should be done as you are reaching for a new opportunity, rather than shrinking from a phantom anxiety.

Optimize for the journey, not the destination.

It’s hard to understand this without going through it, but it’s extremely important not to optimize for or aggrandize an exit, or any particular goal represented by a single point in time. The thing is, whatever that goal is, it will be a temporary and fleeting moment, and it simply starts another journey.

How One Powerful Poem Can Change Your Life.

I love Rudyard Kipling's "If". It's a magnificent poem — it doesn't get too maudlin, but it does have its highs (it's been voted Britain's favorite poem). Check out the bolded areas and see if they have meaning for you and what you do.

Trust me — it's powerful (the line with triumph and disaster is emblazoned at Centre Court at Wimbledon).

If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don't deal in lies, Or being hated, don't give way to hating, And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream - and not make dreams your master; If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breathe a word about your loss; If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!'

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, ' Or walk with Kings - nor lose the common touch, if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, If all men count with you, but none too much; If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds' worth of distance run, Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it, And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!

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P.S. Which quote resonated clearly with your career? Which one made you think twice? Let's talk. I've worked with a number of clients — and we developed a successful strategy to grow your career exponentially. If you’re not a client . . . pick up the phone and call me — I offer only one complimentary session each week.